Thursday, October 17, 2013

Be Vulnerable & Authentic

How can being vulnerable be good?

Sociologist and inspriational speaker Brene Brown says that people who have a sense of purpose, a sense of worthiness, of love and of belonging, all of which yield "connection" -- healthy relationships -- are authentic and vulnerable.

In other words, they embrace whatever it is that makes them say, "I am not BLANK enough." These people -- and she's interviewed hundreds and studied and researched the subject of vulnerability -- have a sense of courage, meaning being okay with imperfection. They have compassion, so they can be kind to themselves. And connection, that favorite word in tango, is a result of authenticity and vulnerability, Brown says.

Instead, we numb the things we don't like or that are painful, but we can't numb emotions selectively through addictions, or by making uncertain things certain, or by assigning blame, or by being angry, which prevents us from listening. These approaches hurt ourselves and others. She says that glass of wine, that banana nut muffin, numbs joy, gratitude and happiness. Brown says that instead of numbing

ourselves, "there is another way. To let ourselves be seen, deeply seen, vulnerably seen, to love with our whole hearts, even though there is no guarantee, and that’s really hard. Especially when catastrophe strikes. Believe that you are enough. ... You are kinder and gentler to the people around you, and gentler to yourself."

1 comment:

Kelley J. Leigh said...

'Love Brene!!
Great summary, Dimitra.

I was at Sophia Agia in Colorado Springs today.
Thoght of you!